Friday, November 21, 2003
the big V
i was talking to a friend today about everything and anything and he asked me why girls lie about their sexuality i.e whether she's still a virgin or not. so we were talking about it and trying to figure out why girls generally (bear in mind i'm not a generic girl) lie about having slept with someone or in some cases...multiple someones. we concluded that it could stem from 3 different reasons...1. she's in denial that she ever slept with that prick who broke her heart.
2. she doesn't want you to feel uncomfortable or insecure.
3. she's afraid that you would think of her differently..i.e. as a slut perhaps
but isn't it a bit extreme to go around wearing a big V on your forehead when it's pretty obvious that someone has already poked you in more ways than one? people talk and people tell and most of the time...nothing is a secret. sooner or later someone will burst the bubble and it's more humiliating to be caught lying about being a virgin than to not be a virgin.
some people are proud to admit that they sleep around and they even go to the extent of listing names. some people (especially girls) lie about how many people they've slept with because they don't want to be judged by the amount of people they've slept with or who they've slept with. no matter how much we'd like to believe that we're all open minded and we can accept almost anything....we still judge. for example...if someone tells me that she has slept with Joe (names have been altered to protect privacy) i'd think of her as a slut cause only a slut would sleep with a prick like that. if a guy i'm dating tells me that he's slept with more than a handful of people i'd think twice as well.
so why do people lie? i guess it's to protect themselves. from who and from what i still have yet to figure out. we used to come from a place where being a non-virgin was a sin...but now it seems as if perception has changed. now it seems as if we're being ridiculed and laughed at if we're virgins. but what my friend said is true. sex is all around us. it's on tv..the internet..billboards...magazines...even the clothes we wear are screaming out for sex. it's the foreign exposure that has turned us into what we are today. although our government would like for us to be truly malaysian i have to admit that we are governed by western culture. oh well...can't complain though.
anyway...i need a break. i need to unwind and go to a place where children and pianos don't co-exist. lotsa holidays coming up and i do want to travel so badly but there's one thing that always snags me back to reality. i have no money. oh well...i guess i have to leech of the experiences of others and it would have to satisfy my travel needs for now.
oh btw....you know how people are always saying it's a small world. well...the world is too small when you sit down at a mamak and realize that the 3 guys in the table next to you are talking about your ex's. i'm not kidding. i sat down at a mamak last week and there were 3 guys sitting in the next table. i have never seen them before in my whole entire life. i overheard them talking about one of my ex's...then came another ex's...and then another. can you imagine that? 3 strangers talking about 3 of my ex's when i'm sitting right next to them. it's time for me to find a new hangout place. any suggestions?
feefs, 1:34 PM
