Tuesday, December 02, 2003
common misconceptions....
moving back to being judgemental....i had a conversation with a friend the other day about the common misconceptions that people have about others based on first impressions. it is so easy for us to judge someone before trying to get to know them. when someone walks by wearing pink bell bottoms and a flourescent green tight fitting t-shirt we automatically tagged them as being ah beng (no offence to those who wear pink bell bottoms and flourescent green shirts or anything along those lines). when a pretty girl walks by we assume that she's already got a boyfriend (God forbid she's still single with such a pretty face). why do you think we call them 'dumb blondes'? basically what i'm trying to get to is the fact that we assume things about others before getting to know them. now my question is why?
could it be that we have such low self esteem that we place others below us so that we could feel better about ourselves. i wouldn't want to find out that the guy in the pink bell bottoms is a straight A student. i know it shouldn't bother me and i believe it wouldn't but when faced with the situation i can't say for sure that i'll honestly be unaffected.
could it be that we're afraid of what we don't know. people who seem strange to us have to be strange. if not...why are they wearing pink bell bottoms? could we be afraid to find out that they're exactly like us...just with different tastes for fashion? so we refuse to approach them and get to know them because we're afraid to find out what they're really like.
another common assumption is that attractive people are always unobtainable. either because they're already attached...because they have no brains or because they're snobby. why would someone make assumptions like that? i know some pretty people and they're all normal like everyone else. i suppose people tag them with such behaviour because they're in another league. why bother going up to them when we're going to be rejected? we're not worthy of such beauty so we create excuses to save ourselves from the potential humiliation.
i know i definitely am one of those judgemental people who make assumptions based on nothing. and i've been proven wrong one too many times. i know that first impressions are important and a persons outlook is the first thing we notice and therefore it has to be appealing. but doesn't that just sound a little shallow?
interesting point to ponder:
-the less attractive people are the ones who try harder.
-great beauty makes you stare but great ugliness will turn your head as well.
feefs, 1:33 AM
