Saturday, February 14, 2004
happy valentines day?
it's official...my family is demented. got a valentines wish from my dad this morning...5am to be exact. maybe in kelantan it might be normal but i don't think parents are supposed to send valentines wishes to their children...via sms i might add. or am i just being a bit paranoid? i mean i've been his daughter for like 22 years and he's never sent me a valentines sms. if it was a yearly thing i guess it would seem pretty normal but after 22 years...wtf?oh well...in the spirit of valentines...i shall write a bit about valentines...or the lack of it in my case. i've never really been an advocate of valentines. i always believed that it was just some sort of money making gimmick. prices go sky high...restaurants throw out their a la carte menu for a set menu and they charge way too much for a 6 course meal that i can cook myself for under 20 bucks...flowers become the in thing...and everything looks red or pink. even yahoo has some sort of pink valentine thing going on. everywhere i turn there are red hearts and gifts that say 'i love you'. my question is...why february 14th? shouldn't everyday be valentines day if two people are truly in love?
why do people just make valentines day an excuse to go for romantic dinners and buy flowers and gifts? it seems as if valentines day has become a chore rather than a day to reflect and celebrate. but then again...i reflect and celebrate everyday...but that's just me. i think people just get sucked into the whole valentines day mumbo jumbo because society expects them to. everyone is making reservations and buying gifts...so why should i be left out? if we don't fall in line then we're labelled 'sad' or 'unromantic' or 'insensitive'. couples actually do break up over such trivial stuff such as forgetting a 2 week anniversary or not getting the 'i just love those prada shoes' hint. i just don't get how people seem to think that weekly and monthly anniversaries..valentines day..are so important (no offence to my friends out there who do). if we're truly in love...shouldn't everyday be important...not just the holidays and the birthdays and the other mumbo jumbo's.
my last relationship...which happens to be the only meaningful relationship i was in...lasted almost 2 years. i didn't have an anniversary...and i literally mean i have no idea when the 'togetherness' actually happened...i didn't celebrate valentines day...and birthdays were just literally the day multiplied by the years that we were conceived. it didn't make the relationship less meaningful...it didn't make us insensitive..it didn't make us uncaring...it just meant that we were non-conformist. we didn't believe that we had an obligation to toe the line. and heck it saves us a whole lot of money as well.
but hey...sometimes i wonder whether the whole 'valentines day is crap' is just something we single people say as a defense mechanism (did i just say that out loud?). i don't exactly have anyone to celebrate valentines day with...nobody is buying my gifts...i have no man. am i just being bitter...or am i just being practical. but hey...i'm just a single person...what do i know about meaningful relationships...what do i know about love? and you know what else i think...i don't think i've scored any points be revealing my stand on valentines day and romance. you people reading this are probably thinking that i'm the saddest most pathetic person around. a year ago...i would probably agree with you...but now...i might actually consider myself as wise and practical.
feefs, 1:15 PM
