Tuesday, October 28, 2003
haven't updated in ages..i was too busy doing nothing that i forgot about this damned thing. once again it's past 7am which basically means i haven't slept all night and will probably wake up at 5pm later today. spent most of my night watching reruns on astro.a weird thing happened today. all the atm machines in hartamas were 'unable to dispense cash' simultaneously. a few friends and i were broke...i was probably the richest one among all 4 of us with a WHOPPING 26 bucks and 40 cents in my wallet. we went to 3 banks in hartamas only to be disappointed so we drove all the way to a petrol station to press money. the guys ended up buying toothbrushes from the petrol station mart which brings me to my next topic.
personally i won't buy a toothbrush from a petrol station unless it was absolutely necessary. it was then i realized that guys don't really think twice when it comes to shopping even if it's for groceries or essential items such as toothbrushes or toilet paper or something. i prefer to do my shopping at supermarkets...or pharmacies. not because i'm picky and sophisticated but because i could probably get it cheaper at supermarkets and because they probably have a wider range of items. guys go for the more convenient route. they see something and it's either yes or no.... there's no contemplation...no thought put into it (and that doesn't only apply to shopping). sometimes i wonder which is better...being straight forward or being selectively thrifty. oh well...i guess there is no right or wrong...better or worse when it comes to gender.
notice how we sometimes blame certain things on gender.
men cheat - reason: they're guys
women nag - reason: they're women
men don't shave their armpits - reason: they're men
women don't fart in public - reason: they're women
men are insensitive - reason: they're men
women are too sensitive - reason: they're women
don't get me wrong..there are differences between men and women (although i'd like to believe in equality). women are no doubt physically gentler than men are and men are without a doubt physically stronger than women. other than physical differences i don't see how we are different emotionally. guys cheat and it's acceptable...girls cheat and we're automatically labelled a 'slut'. women cry and it's acceptable...men cry and they're pussies. what's with the double standards?? i know how to fix a flat tyre...i know how to use a screwdriver. i know this isn't going anywhere but i hate it when guys perceive girls to be needy...or at least the needier one of the two (or is it *seven) sexes.
anyway...i've recently started seeing this guy (in a purely platonic way). he's intelligent...witty...and we get along really well. the thing is...i've heard a whole lot of negative things about this particular guy from our mutual friends. i am obviously closer to these people than he is or was. i haven't noticed anything wrong with him yet. but after hearing all the stories and all the opinions...i find myself trying harder to find faults in him than i did before. then i realized that other people's judgements are becoming my own. it's funny how powerful 'bitching' can be. we bitch about people without thinking of the repercussions it could have not only to us but to others as well. like i was telling a friend...judgement is a very powerful thing. we judge people everyday..our friends..our colleagues..even the fella selling char kuey teow. we see a person that we deem 'ah lian' walking down the street and we're elbowing each other going 'ah lian ah lian'. we see an indian driving a merc and we assume it's the driver. i'm definitely an extremist when it comes to judging.
anyone can definitely tell you right of the bat that i'm one judgmental bitch with lots of opinions...most of them are usually negative and that i'm not afraid to put it all out there. i believe opinions...regardless of whether it's negative or positive should be shared.
i will end this post with one question. how much of what we see is what we get?
*by seven sexes i refer to men, women, gays, lesbians, bisexuals, transexuals and transvestites.
feefs, 3:25 PM
