Wednesday, November 26, 2003
rules of attraction...
when it comes to choosing a partner...aesthetics do play an important role..so does personality. but what is the first thing that attracts you to another person. you can't see a persons character just by looking at him so the obvious answer would be looks. i was discussing the subject of attraction with a friend last night over a cuppa teh o'ais and he mentioned something about not being able to be with someone he is not attracted to. granted...that is the case for most of us out there. then comes the question of what attracts us....different people have different preferences. i know mine are a bit out of the norm and i know some people who don't have many preferences. does that mean that i'm picky? yes it does. i'm not afraid to admit that i'm very selective when it comes to finding a partner...let alone a close friend. they have to fit a certain criteria and it takes a long long time before they can gain my trust (traits that befit a scorpio). that is probably why i'm still single. in any case...i'm quite sure that there is someone out there who fits my bill. i'm just wondering whether i fit his bill.
anyway...the point i'm trying to get to is this...how do we know who we deserve and who decides what we deserve? is there a system that determines who we can date and who we can't? we hear about ugly guys with gorgeous chicks...rich girls with poor guys...rich guys with poor girls...good looking guys with ugly looking girls...you name it we've probably got a couple for each one. and who are we to say they don't deserve each other? who are we to say that they're either in it for the money or for the sex?
after every relationship there is bound the be the words 'you deserve better'. what is that supposed to mean? how do we know what we deserve? is it like christmas and santa claus? if i've been a good girl i'll get a present from santa. if i'm really bad i'll grow up alone and unhappy. are we punished for the wrongs we have done in our past relationships in our future relationships? i've treated people badly on more than one occasion and i'm afraid that i'll be treated the same way in the future as punishment for the wrongs that i've done. it doesn't have to come in the form of the same situation...it could be many other things.
question is...is it really 'a tit for a tat'?
feefs, 3:02 AM
